Rejection is one of those things in life we can’t escape. Sooner or later, we all experience it. But how we respond to it? That’s what makes all the difference.
I was eighteen when I first stepped out of my comfort zone. I joined my university’s canvassing program to help cover tuition and earn a scholarship. It was my first time selling health and Bible reading materials, door to door. And if you’ve ever gone door-to-door, you know your chances of getting rejected are pretty high!
Though I did well for a first-timer, I struggled to stay encouraged on days filled with rejection after rejection. The worst part? The rude ones. I had such a hard time dealing with my anger, sadness, and frustration when people were deliberately mean.
At first, after a particularly nasty encounter, I would sit outside and write notes—not rude ones!—and leave them on doors, windows, or cars. I’d explain my actions and even let them know I forgave them. It was my way of getting closure.
Eventually, though, I realized that if I wrote a note for every rude person, I’d have no time to work or reach my goal. More importantly, I learned not to take it personally. Because truthfully, they weren’t rejecting me—they were rejecting something much bigger than me.
Grieving over closed doors
After college, I faced a new wave of rejections. Dreams that didn’t work out, closed doors I thought were supposed to open. I’d feel disappointed for months. That’s when I realized God was teaching me three things: to let go of the past, to focus on the present, to trust Him with my future.
Grieving is valid. If your heart was set on something that didn’t come out as planned, it’s okay to mourn the loss. No one has the right to minimize that. But you can’t live in grief forever. God has a storehouse of blessings waiting for you. If you’re too focused on the closed door, you might miss those opening beside you.
Regaining Focus After Rejection
It’s not easy—but it’s possible. Here are a few verses that have helped me stay grounded:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
“I have chosen you and have not rejected you… I am your God.” – Isaiah 41:9–10
“He was rejected by people, but chosen by God for great honor.” – 1 Peter 2:4
“If God is for us, who can be against us?” – Romans 8:31
Someone else’s approval doesn’t define your worth. You are chosen by God and that’s what matters most.
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